Relationships, like produce, milk and reality television stars, have a shelf life. Most couples find that after a few weeks, months, or years, the luster fades and the initial carnal fury that brought them together has dissipated. The moldy codgers who get past this sexual brick wall do so by developing an elaborate series of coping mechanisms. Infidelity is common in scenarios where one or both sexual partners become fed up with plain vanilla missionary.
1. Men are interested in sexual variety.
Jon*, 22, Receiving
Every guy I've dated has requested anal at some point, even to the point of begging. This experience seems to be ubiquitous in heterosexual relationships. Why do men love anal sex? Does anal really feel that much better than vaginal sex? What's the appeal? Anal sex is "naughty" to many people, Dr. Blair says, and penetrating someone that way can make them feel dominant. And for receiving partners, people of all genders often enjoy the feeling of being "filled up," Dr. Blair says.
Dan*, 21, Receiving
Many women wonder what it is with the male fascination with heterosexual anal sex. Men seem to fantasize obsessively about anal sex. Hundreds of porn movies are made every year fetishizing anal sex.
With all due respect to Salt-N-Pepa, let's talk about Todd. Todd not his real name is a friend of a friend. He's a rare breed—a finance guy who lives in L. He's been dating the same ladylike woman for three years.