Anal sex can seem like a big deal if you haven't really done butt stuff before. And like any other sex act, it's something that you should - in fact, must - prepare for if you want to do it. So how do you prepare for anal? Preparing for anal, like all new sex things, requires a good old chat and some grade A communication before anything goes anywhere So if you want to be safe, sure and comfortable for your first time anal sex, follow these tips from sex expert and founder of b-Vibe Alicia Sinclair - because this is someone who really knows her way around an anus. Bear in mind, these tips are for anyone with a butt, having sex with a partner of any gender identity - whether they have a penis, or plan to wear a strap-on for penetration.
2. You absolutely, positively need to use lube.
1. You should probably start with a finger or two.
But what if I told you that there are a few simple steps you can take to ensure a clean, more pleasurable experience? Anal play is a natural, healthy, and an exciting way to spice up your sex life. It can range from a gentle caress to full-on penetration. Hygiene is a key aspect of being able to fully relax, for many people. For some people, having a bowel movement and cleaning the outside of their anal area after is enough preparation. Others will need a bit more than that to feel fully comfortable. The anus is a sphincter, so relaxation is essential for a pleasurable experience with this body part. This article will help you find a hygiene process that works for you, along with some helpful tools to make the process easier. Ask your partner to touch you there during more familiar sexual activities, to begin with. Cowgirl is a good sex position to begin experimenting with anal stimulation.
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Joseph Terlizzi , a New York-based colon and rectal surgeon, for the lowdown on how gay and bi men can prepare, how to do the deed, and how to stay safe post-coital. Check out his expert advice on how to make anal sex more pleasurable:. While maintaining anal hygiene is important, people tend to be too fastidious when it comes to cleaning up before anal intercourse. Common mistakes I see patients make include using chemical wipes the perfumes and preservatives make them irritating and wiping too much friction can lead to abrasions. This causes the skin around the anus to become inflamed, leading to thickening and ultimately itching or discomfort with sex. So forget the harsh scents and chemicals — before sex, simply clean the outside of the anus well in the shower or bath with plain water or a very gentle soap.